I just read the daily devotional on healing and really liked what it said, so want to talk about it here. The basis of the devotional was about healing and divorce. It is really terrible when two people that have committed to each other end up going separate ways. I’ve been divorced from my beautiful little girl’s daddy for a long time now and have gone through many stages of healing. I believe we are excellent parents and raising her very well even though we live in separate homes. It’s not ideal, but works for us. If anyone reads this and is going through a divorce, these are my after-the-fact suggestions to help get through.
-Read Mark 5:25-34
-Take naps to rest.
-Never argue in front of children or talk badly about the other parent.
-Don’t numb yourself with anything. God gave us tear ducts for a reason.
-Never get violent – walk away.
-Have grace
-Take time (this can mean YEARS) to heal
-Trust in God
After 8 years, I think I’ve finally got this healing thing under control. I told someone recently that the only way I can do everything I do is because of regular attendance at church. I think I cried through my first year of Sunday services and several one-on-one sessions with the pastor. Now, I have shifted my attention from “me, me, me” to the larger picture. This has opened up an entirely new relationship with God and the world to me.
Please take this with with you. . . . . “Peace be with you.”
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July 3, 2008 at 4:37 pm
thenonconformer
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/perhaps-the-best-thing-for-preserving-marriages-is/
July 8, 2008 at 2:58 pm
mormonsoprano
Hi Julie – I haven’t been to your site for awhile. This is a really lovely post. I am so proud of you. Speaking from experience, I believe what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger! All of us have to face circumstances that are out of our control and not what we wanted. You have found the key by staying close to the Lord, putting your trust in Him and seeking grace – This life is an experience in profound trust—trust in Jesus Christ, trust in His teachings, trust in our capacity as led by the Holy Spirit to obey those teachings for happiness now and for a purposeful, supremely happy eternal existence. To trust means to obey willingly without knowing the end from the beginning (Prov. 3:5–7). To produce fruit, our trust in the Lord must be more powerful and enduring than our confidence in our own personal feelings and experience. And now, after much time, your trust and faith had allowed you to gain experience and great treasures of wisdom. You are such a wonderful example and a wonderful mother. I have no doubt your efforts are being magnified. Keep on keepin’ on!
xx hugs xx